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Managing Director @ Polymath AI
Join clients from these organizations
You can actively shape your social ties.
In a New City
How do I make new friends?
Time, proximity, similarity
Strategies to find people
Listening to connect
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At Home
How do I handle disagreements with my partner?
Understand conflict styles
Minimize fight or flight response
Build intimacy through hard convos
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At Work
How do I build trust with my team?
Neuroscience of trust
Reliability, credibility and intimacy
Habits to build trust
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Senior Director @ Intuitive Surgical
Our Approach
We're dedicated to building your Relational Fitness.
Your ability to build and maintain meaningful relationships is as important to your health and well-being as your physical and mental fitness.
Founder of Vital Shift Longevity
Feel confident using skills
Reduction in loneliness
Greater trust in others
Client Stories
Miguel
Startup Founder
Scientifically, purposefully improving your relationships is really time-effective, low-hanging fruit. Incredibly valuable to learn. The research felt robust and I gained new perspectives and tools on how to increase intimacy without relying on luck.
Sogole
Dentist
This program gave me practical tools to improve my relationships, both personally and professionally. I learned how to balance vulnerability, give and receive feedback, and communicate more effectively through hands-on activities and live coaching. The experience also helped me learn more about myself. The material is clear and actionable, and the group was engaged and supportive. Highly recommended for anyone looking to build deeper connections.
Mark
Managing Partner
I think that so many people can benefit from a program like this. I would recommend all to take it. It really helped me improve my work relationships and deepen the connection with my fiancé.
Ben
Award-winning 3D animator
Anuradha
Writer
I got a lot from practicing listening and sharing with others, and I learned as a result that I can indeed be vulnerable and sit in my feelings rather than intellectualizing them. This workshop helped me move past that hurdle to strengthen a friendship I didn’t think could be repaired.
Gio
Engineering Manager
As a new manager I found relational fitness complimented my on the job training beautifully. The class allowed me to delve more deeply in a safe space, practicing skills in a setting that is more comfortable than the office. It was eye opening for my relationships. Incredible value.
Ric
Warfare Officer, US Navy
The whole program is awesome. The way Phil facilitates each session, and his ability to make clear and objective observations that are both insightful and constructive, is very impressive. The way the lessons are constructed and presented from a pedagogical standpoint, and the specific ideas and frameworks that are chosen have been super valuable for me.
Hicham
CEO
The best training my team has ever done. Valuable, insightful, engaging. We immediately incorporated the strategies into our work with clients and each other.
Lisa
Sr. Product Designer
2x faster
Decision-making speed
3 hours
Saved per week/person
+$129k
Annual Savings
Seen for Business
"The difference in our managers was massive. Our leadership summit after the program was like night and day from before. How people communicate, the openness and quality of conversation is so much better now."
John Kettles, VP of CL&D @ Intuitive
The Relational Fitness System
We've developed a six-part model for how to approach relationship building from first principles.
For Individuals
Foundations of Relational Fitness
Live group practice, peer feedback, and 1:1 coaching to build skills and confidence
Social Health Guarantee — improve your health within 12 weeks or your money back.
Get personalized support
For Teams
Relational Fitness for Leaders
IRL or online — from a 2-hour workshop to a 90-day program
Improve execution speed, trust, and retention.
Personalized coaching to build a connected culture
